THE BREAK UP SONGS

WE ALL KNOW THAT BREAKUPS ARE HARD, BUT THESE ARE THE SONGS WE TURN TO. LOOKING TO GET OVER THAT BROKEN HEART OR THAT REMIND US WHY WE LEFT THAT PERSON. THESE SONGS SOMETIMES MAKE US CRY AND EVEN MAKE US SMILE, BUT EITHER WAY THEY MOVE US. THESE ARE THE GO TO SONGS BY THOSE WHO SUNG THEM BEST.







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LIKE I SAID BREAKUPS AREN'T EASY BUT WHEN YOU CAN TURN TO MUSIC IT'S A LITTLE EASIER. AND IT HELPS WHEN YOUR LOOKING FOR A REASON TO CALL, BUT KNOW YOU SHOULDN'T. THESES ARE JUST A FEW SONGS THAT WE LOOK FOR SUPPORT.

BY: GENEVA RELF

THE BEAUTY OF HEART

I once heard a man say "I put myself out there once and I can't do it again I guess." My only response to him was " One women doesn't destroy the world, and I thought you could see that." It's not that I didn't understand or even agree with his feelings at one point, but I know that life goes on passed one person! That sometimes we have to be with the worst to appreciate the best were about to receive. There are things you appreciate more the second time around you took for granted the first time. Your wiser to when you need to communicate, support, and just understand the second time around. There will be times when you bump against Mr. & Miss. wrong before you meet the right one. Furthermore we sometimes have the perfect mate sitting in front of us our whole life and never know it. The sad part is most of the time it's too late and that person is tired or holding on to what should be. I'm not saying this is always the case, but sometimes what you need and looking for is closer then you think.

There is nothing on this earth or in this world like being with someone who is your better half. Being with someone who would doing anything to see you smile, and laugh and just to be around you. The idea of being with someone who can see you for who you are without wanting or asking for that to change but to be embraced. I wonder why it's so hard to commit to someone who hasn't hurt you? Why we struggle with the chance to be happy and live in peace if not just for a moment? I understand that once your heart has been broken and you have been mistreated it hard to just put yourself back out there. Furthermore I understand that it's hard to believe and even trust when your waiting for them to do something wrong. The one thing I have learned is that if your eyes are always half open then you only see half of what you can get. If your eyes are always closed they'll never see what you can get. You have to open your eyes and take a chance the worst thing that can happen is noting that time won't heal. We say we don't want to get hurt or that were not ready to be back out there again. However aren't we hurting by missing out on what we could have. The thought of seeing others happy and in like or love and your playing it safe. That's like being the kid picked last every time to play at school, or being that really last picked person for partners in class. No body wants to feel like things are passing them by or that they aren't good enough to in the game we call life.


I say yes it will hurt and yes there will be times when you wish you were single, but then there will be those days when you can't image how you did it before without them. The very thought of them not being around is torture and beyond your thoughts. Even when you think that you can't take anymore and that your not cut out for that kind of relationship. Where you have to lay your feelings on the line and actually care about someone, seems so beyond you. Just hang in there it gets better and trust me you don't want to look back over your life and wonder what could have been.

Just Know your Postion

I have never been the type of women who needed a man to complete me or to give me anything. I was brought up by strong women of all types for the single mother, to the devoted strong grandmother who made sure you knew your place! Its crazy how as time goes on the game that many men and women play never changes. We are often too scared to express what we really feel or even what it true in our hearts. Instead we play games lead people on and think that we are doing them a favor, because we haven't hurt their feelings. However it's the long run your not thinking about I mean now this person is invested in a lie of the worst kind.


However what about those people who know what you want a head of the game and act new when you remind them of what it is. I often wondered how women got themselves in those positions. How do you agree to be a jump off, or as they say "girlfriend #2" and be fine with that? But then you have those women who think that sex will change anything, and if you bring it enough he will change his mind. Well I hate to bust your "bubble" but that's a lie and he'll tell you whatever to keep getting it. Not to mention the fact if you make yourself open to them without a fight they'll continue to do it. However some women don't know I'll admit you men are slick with that you'll tell a girl anything to get what you want. Now not bashing men because ladies yes ladies are just as bad and will do anything to get what they want or what another has!


However you have these "sideline" girls who forget that is just what they are sidelines and not the official player on the court or field! They think because he may call or visit that makes you move up in the ranks no it doesn't know your place. If you had your own you wouldn't be waiting around for mine to be done with me to see you. You wouldn't be waiting for him to leave me to call you to see you. Sometimes we put our self in these places to be hurt, because we know what is going too happened and continue to head for it. Like he keeps proclaiming he is going to leave her, and that it's you he loves just give him time. Time please it's been three or four years later and your still with her, and have no plans to leave her. However we hear what we want and see what we want so it doesn't hurt so badly when it comes to past. There are time when we often lie to our self to make up for the fact we don't have what we want from the ones we want it from.
Furthermore there are times when you just get up and move on because you deserve better then that. And you don't deserve to be put on the sidelines when you’re a star player. You know that everything you’re wasting on him or her would be appreciated by someone else. Not to mention you shouldn't have to share your time with anyone who claims to love you or care about you. We often stay in these relationships or in these positions because of fear and the doubt of better. We don't know if the pain we feel will be greater then the pain we feel now. Now no one wants to get hurt or to be the one that is used. Sometimes we give our self to these people and devote out time, kindness, understanding, and patients. I mean going through something’s and not knowing why you only get 20% or 10% while most days you’re giving 90% or 80%. Wondering why and trying to figure out what you didn't do or couldn't do to change this. You wonder why the more you give the worse they get sometimes and just to wake up one day and they leave without why.


You may never get that answer I use to wonder if you’re a great women a true solider for your man. You don't want what's in his pocket, and you genuinely want the best for him or her, and you’re supportive. That would be enough and if you gave but also weren't a doormat for them and you cared about their needs and desires and did your best to keep them happy. You would be good enough and that you could make it through anything with communication. I have learned that sometimes you’re just not enough good or bad wise just not enough period for some really. You have to think about what you really want and what makes you happy. Because you'll do anything for someone when you don't know what you want. You'll often give in when you’re strong because it's easier to be weak then fight a battle you know you’re losing already. I feel that I can't get a break from the pain, or the tears I put into a relationship or person. My heart and soul just wants to give up and don't go back out for another heartache; however "life is to be lived not watched". I often think that maybe its crazy the way we put so much energy into nothing and into something we know is only hurting us.

Just My Opinion
By: Geneva Relf

New Game Needed

Stepping Your Game Up In '09
By: Geneva Relf
　
In today's time, money is tight and a lot of you young people just do not have the funds. That does not mean you still cannot get the girls you want but it does mean you will have to change your approach to them. Women like security of course we do but that leads into more of a relationship not casual dating or hook up. We like men to be adventurous and spontaneous with us to give us something to look forward too. You do not have to spend a lot to make us happy in fact; it is the little things in the relationship that we remember the most anyway.
A person once took me on a trip to the mountains and packed a light dinner and we sat on the hood of his car and watched the night sky. It did not cost him anything and it was the sweetest thing any man has done for me. See if you take enough time to plan and think about what will make us happy I can guarantee that you will be happy too. Sometimes it could just be you cooking for us showing us your creative side.

We like a man to take care of us for a change and to pamper us it is really a turn-on. We love it when you make it more about us then you because later we will make sure that it is all about you. Make sure whatever you do it is something you will both enjoy there is no point in taking her somewhere wishing you were some place else. Yes, fellas we can tell when you are not happy and when you rather be some place else all together, so plan and event that you both like. Find out what music she likes and then surprise her with a candlelight dinner and candles surrounding the room. Put on that mix of her favorite love, get in the mood songs and then just watch her overdose on your creative, sensual, well-planned evening.

Now do not expect sex that will just ruin the evening let her lead up to that if you seem too eager or desperate you will not get any. Do not make us feel like we owe you for a beautiful night or that because you planned a beautiful date we have to give you some. If you really want to get some at the end of the night, make it the least of your agenda and let it be our move to advance not yours.
We love to laugh and have fun so comedies are always good and planning a movie date where you watch your favorite movies and spend the entire night laughing and getting closer. See it does not cost to have her bring her favorite movies and pop popcorn does it? These are just some ideas for men that already have a specific woman in mind and have an idea already of what she likes and what she does not like.
For those who want the inside scoop on how to pick us up well you have heard it before confidence we do not really know you are broke until you say something. Make us feel like your the king we want you to be, now don't go off telling a bunch of lies you know you can't come close to. However, you do not have to go into details on everything less really is more and besides if we are really into you that will not matter. Make sure that your hygiene is on point there is nothing worse then a fine brother who smells bad. We see first, and smell second we are attracted to your scent so if your odor is off so is our attention we will not hang around. We like it when you take notice on things like our perfume and our style you do not have to over compliment but throw one in every now and again.

We like it when you notice that we are into you and when your turning us on too, but don't take that as a green light to just move in. Also sometimes, we do not really know how into us you are until its too late. Therefore, a touch here or there is good too like a touch of the elbow or caressing of the fingers and hand. These little touches let us know that you interested and that you are really attracted to us. Keep eye contact and try not to stare at anyone body part. It is so annoying when a person is caught looking at your chest or butt the entire time my eye are on my face for a reason. Also looking at our lips let us know you want to kiss us, but do not stare it is not going to make us want to. We know you are imagining us naked you cannot help it but try not to show it with your face it is not cute if it is prolonged. Bilingual is a plus as we love the hear how beautiful we are in another language so people out there who speak two languages use it. Nevertheless, in closing no matter what be yourself because you never know how long you have to you be that way.

Talk About Pressure

I have grown up my entire life with rules and guidelines that never questioned before. I was the good girl who never ask question or even considered doing anything to taint my name. I have lived that way for along time and never planned on changing that. Then One day this man whom I have never encountered before comes in my life and all the feelings I thought were wrong and not bad I began to feel. I wasn't sure why I didn't even know him but there was something that made him shine. A beauty you only read in those novels that look cheesy on the cover, or that are so graphic you feel guilty for even touching them. Yet for me I just kept my distance I didn't know what to do or even if what I felt was real. One night of just sleeping in his arms proved that it wasn't lust but a great like. A connection of your souls counterpart that can't be denied or even ignored but yet as innocent as that night was and the beauty of the look on his face in the morning light wasn't enough. His life will take him from me and down a path so far from my own and the question of should I risk it chance it on something I know for sure.

Just like that he was gone to live his life and me left to wonder what if, and should I have done anything different. Then out of the blue a friend whom I thought forgot me and I hadn't seen in years comes back with a mission ME. He said that he always had a thing for me and that I was the one girl he felt something strong for. I wondered what is the something strong and why now tell? His life was taking him to a country so far from me in such little time yet he wanted to test the waters. See what could have been and even what might still be for us and could we make it work. He do you test waters with a man who doesn't want a girlfriend or commitment but just wants to see what happens. I want to say no when he looks at me but his eyes have a calming effect, his arms are strong but yet gentle and his words are soft to sweet to be real. Yet I trust him but I refuse to give in to the uncertain territory he has traveled already. The fact he is so far advanced then me in life often puzzles me why he bothers me.


I mean he could be with plenty of girls that wouldn't deny him or fear the next move. Yet I'm holding my breath I'm just waiting for him to mess up or change his mind. Why me is all I think when he calls? Is the thought of my innocents that precious to him like a target or bulls eye he can't miss. What should I do when he says that it's not like that, but when were alone it feels like that. Evey kiss ends with a thank you and yet I wonder why? Is it a gift to you or a job well done is it the idea that you might be getting close that is so appealing to you? I don't know and to afraid to ask him really. The pressure is to much at times that I can't breath I try to explain I'm not there yet and I'm not ready for all that. Yet it seems to be a challenge for him a task to be complete before he leaves me. I'm not there yet but he is and has been for a long time and can a man who has done so much be content with so little now? When the basics don't please him anymore then what and when no is no longer clear then what? I often question my whole up bringing but I wouldn't be the girl I am today. So I'll just wait and hope he can wait with me or that maybe I should just relax and not think so much about these things. Life has too many ways of stressing a person out this should be on top of that.

By: Geneva Relf